Last Wednesday, January 6, 2016, was a huge milestone for my husband and I, our 20th Anniversary. See in 1992 my dad made me get a job, he said “you aren’t going to sit around all summer doing nothing!!” It was the summer between my sophomore and junior years of high school. He sent me out to the glider school that was about 6 miles down the road from our farm house and told me to talk to the owner, Bruce, to see about having a summer job. So I did and got the job only because my dad had already made those arrangements with his friend! Looking back, even with NO work experience, I probably could have walked in smelling like cow poo and still got the job. Anyway, there were several boys who worked there… and honestly I didn’t think anything of any of the boys that worked there, I mean they worked OUTSIDE during the SUMMER in ARIZONA’s 120° heat… they were sweaty and dirty! I did however become friends with them while working all summer then weekends once school started again.
Fast forward 2 years to the summer of 1994 and a sweet little lady decided to play match maker. She got Matt and I going to participate in activities outside of work and we really enjoyed being with each other so much that 6 months later we were engaged!!! Then another year passes and we were married! Seems crazy!
20 YEARS OF MARRIAGE to the same person!!! It has been fun and challenging and yes sometimes you just want to quit!! If you ask Matt, he will say the same thing. I tell you this because with social media, so many people see the “perfect” parts of a persons life (and a lot of time that includes their marriage) and think “why can’t I have that”. I want to discourage you from looking to social media for what a marriage should look like… cause it’s often deceiving! I will tell you that there are so many struggles that come in a marriage over a 20 year period, heck even over the first year… and most people don’t put that on social media. Disagreements about how to spend money, parenting styles, how time is spent, how we are treated and how we treat our spouse. Marriage is NOT PERFECT!! Marriage requires that you fight when the other can’t, it requires family and friends fighting for your marriage and it requires people praying for your marriage. And it’s also the feeling you get knowing that your spouse is fighting for your marriage. It may be hard and it may not seem worth it, but the fight is WORTH IT!! SO when you see couples taking all these amazing trips, awesome dinners and just overall making their online presence look so dreamy… just know that there is a very good chance they are leaving some things out that’s not so glamorous.
Every bit of our marriage has been worth what we have today! Love you more than you know Matt!!!